She Lost It
Welcome to She Lost It, the podcast for anyone ready to let go of what’s been weighing them down and step into a life they truly love. I’m Stefani—an accidental health coach, entrepreneur, mom, and someone who knows what it’s like to lose it all, start over, and come out stronger.
In this first episode, I’m sharing my story—the raw, real, and sometimes messy truth about how I went from drowning in anxiety, debt, food addiction, and people-pleasing to finally taking control of my life. But this podcast isn’t just about my journey—it’s about yours.
Each episode, I’ll share practical tips to help you break free from the patterns holding you back, whether it’s your mindset, your habits, or the stories you’ve been telling yourself. We’ll talk about what it takes to build grit, find your voice, and create a life that feels truly authentic.
Think of this as a conversation between friends—the kind where you leave feeling lighter, inspired, and ready to take action. So if you’re ready to lose what’s been keeping you stuck and gain a whole new perspective, hit play. Let’s do this together.
She Lost It
Own What You’re Good At. Let Go Of What You're Not
Have you ever caught yourself saying "I should be more organized" or "Why can't I be better at this?" For years, I was trapped in the same cycle—trying to fix things that weren't broken instead of embracing what already worked naturally. The turning point came when I finally gave myself permission to admit what I wasn't good at.
This episode dives deep into the liberating power of owning both your strengths and weaknesses. We explore the dangerous lie that we must be good at everything to be valuable, and how that pursuit of "well-roundedness" can actually dull your natural gifts. When you dilute your strengths just to cover your weaknesses, you don't become better—you become blurred.
I'll share my personal journey of both what I excel at (taking action without overthinking, encouraging others, storytelling) and what I struggle with (organization, logistics, crafts). More importantly, I'll walk you through a practical five-step process to identify where you're naturally gifted, recognize what's draining your energy, and build systems that leverage your strengths while supporting your gaps. You'll learn the crucial difference between healthy self-awareness and using your limitations as excuses to stay stuck.
Ready to stop spinning your wheels trying to be balanced in everything and start being brilliant in your own lane? Grab a pen, pull up a chair, and prepare to transform how you view your capabilities. Remember: you were never meant to be everything, but you were always meant to be impactful. Your unique strengths are waiting to be fully embraced!
Welcome to the she Lost it podcast. I'm Stephanie, and this is a space for you to lose what's been holding you back. Talk about real growth, find courage and step into the life you're meant for. Okay, friend, welcome back. This episode is going to be one of those grab a pen and pull up a chair kind of talks, because I want to talk about something most people never really stop to unpack, and that's how to own your strengths and finally stop trying to be great at everything.
Speaker 1:So I was at coffee with a friend the other day and somehow we got on the topic of crafting and I openly and proudly admitted that I hate crafts because it's just not one of my strengths and I used to force that a long time ago. I wanted so badly to be great at crafts, but I finally got real with myself and was honest and I hate them. So she said you've got to do an episode about that. So here I am. This episode is not about crafting, but if you have ever caught yourself saying things like I should be more organized, or why can't I be better at this? Or even I'm not creative enough, I'm not detailed enough, I'm just not polished enough, then this episode is going to hit home, because for years I kept trying to fix things that just weren't broken. I was trying to be what I wasn't instead of becoming more of what I already was, and it wasn't until I gave myself permission to admit what I suck at that everything started to click. So today is not about hype, but it is about clarity. We're going to get honest, we're going to get gritty and hopefully, by the end of this, you'll stop spinning your wheels trying to be balanced and start being brilliant in your very own lane.
Speaker 1:So let's get into it. Let's start with the lie. The lie we tell ourselves that we have to be perfect at everything. Can we just say it? We've been sold this lie that we have to be good at every single thing to be successful, to be respected or to be valuable. That if we're not organized, creative, calm, structured and spontaneous, that somehow we're lacking. But here's the deal Trying to be well-rounded can round the edges off of your actual gifts. We've got to stop trying to master everything and instead get really courageous at owning what's already in us, because when you dilute your strengths just to cover your weaknesses, you don't become better, you become blurred. So I'm going to own what I'm great at and what I'm not. I'm going to go first, because transparency is very important and it matters. So here's what I'm great at. I am great at taking action without overthinking, compartmentalizing, and staying focused when things get hard. I'm great at encouraging people and helping them see themselves, overcoming fear. I'm great at storytelling in a way that makes you feel like dang, she's talking to me. But here's what I suck at PowerPoint. Please do not ask me to make a PowerPoint presentation.
Speaker 1:Organizing Definitely not my love language. Being in charge of logistics, language. Being in charge of logistics, fancy emails and color-coded anything, remembering every detail or deadline. My brain just doesn't work that way. And then there's the crafts. Crafts are a hard no for me. I'm not making a scrapbook for you ever.
Speaker 1:I loathed working on Mason's baby book. That is how much I am not a crafter. And I used to feel so guilty about those things, like if I wasn't the organized mom or the girl who labeled all the bins, then I was failing somehow. But I finally learned that self-awareness is not defeat. It's the beginning of freedom. And this is how that shift changed everything for me, when I stopped fighting to become more well-rounded and started playing to my actual strengths. Here's what happened. I moved faster, I stopped over-apologizing, I gave other people the chance to rise into their strengths and support mine. I built momentum and I actually started to enjoy what I was building, because it felt like me. This shift gave me my energy back, and for someone who's been in survival mode before, you know how incredibly powerful that is.
Speaker 1:So how do you make this shift for yourself? Okay, let's get practical. Here's how you can start stepping into your strengths. Right, this second Number one make two lists your heck yes list and your not my job list. Be real with yourself. Your heck yes list are the things that you're gifted at, what feels good, what flows naturally. The not my job list Well, that's your freedom list. Let those go and let someone else take those. It is okay to let it go.
Speaker 1:Number two look where you're forcing it. What's draining you? What are you constantly beating yourself up over that you could just release. Number three ask for help, or again let it go. Delegate, automate or just stop doing it altogether. Some of the stuff we're doing isn't even necessary, it's just familiar. Number four build your support system around your gaps. So surround yourself with people whose strengths actually complement your weaknesses. This is how strong teams are built at home and in business.
Speaker 1:And number five say this out loud I am not meant to be everything. I am meant to be me. That sentence right there can change your life if you let it. But here's the thing Do not use this as an excuse to stay stuck where you're at. Okay, now, before you go printing out your this just isn't my strength badge and using it as a reason to stay on the struggle bus.
Speaker 1:Let me be really clear Owning your weaknesses does not mean giving up. It doesn't mean negative self-talk and it definitely doesn't mean you get to quit when things get hard and say, well, I'm just not good at that. No, there is a huge difference between owning your wiring and building your whole identity around your limitations. If you keep saying I struggle with this over and over and over, at some point I've got to ask you well then, why are you still on that dang bus? Struggle is real, but it is not your residency. It's okay to be a work in progress, but if your self-awareness turns into self-pity or pass after pass on doing the actual work, you're just going to stay stuck. So you have to change your language Instead of saying I struggle with consistency, say this I'm learning how to build consistency in a way that fits my life. Instead of saying I am just so bad at follow through, say this I'm actively working on strengthening that skill.
Speaker 1:You are not here to coddle your weaknesses. You're here to confront them with truth and grit. You can't rewrite your life with the same old language. You have to speak differently. You have to think differently. You have to think differently. You have to move differently. You were never meant to be everything, but you were always meant to be impactful.
Speaker 1:So stop hiding, stop pretending and start leading with what's already inside. You. Own what you're good at and own what you're not, and let that self-awareness set you free. So thank you so much for hanging out with me today. If this hits home, do me a favor Take 30 seconds and send this to a friend who needs it, someone who's burning themselves out, trying to be everything to everyone. Let them know that they are enough just as they are. And hey, if you're building something right now your health, your business, your mindset and you're ready to lead with your strengths I'm in your corner. And remember you're not behind, you're not broken, you're not too much. You're just becoming exactly who you were always meant to be, and if no one has told you today, I believe in you. See you next time.
